Are you a yes person? Do you keep saying yes when you know you are a no? Do you over schedule yourself? Do you say yes to things even though you’ve already said yes to something else and then switch things around? You might want to consider it’s time to STOP. I say this only because I’ve dealt with this personally and I tend to overcommit because I want to support others and feel bad if I can’t. So I will adjust my schedule to make it work for others. Now what this usually means is that the things I move around  are things for me: like working out, getting my work done, etc. And more often than not, I don’t actually get those things done when I move them around in my day.

I’m here to tell you it’s time to stop because it’s not serving us and it’s definitely not serving those around us. Always playing catch-up, people pleasing and having to acknowledge being behind doesn’t work AND the whole guilt thing….come on! That just doesn’t help anyone, especially you because they don’t even know you’re doing it!


Last week I took on saying NO! I know, I can’t believe it myself and I did it. I didn’t say no just to test this out, I started taking on saying no, when I knew I couldn’t instead of adjusting my schedule and feeling bad. Instead, I provided an alternate time and it was great! What I discovered was that there is power in honouring what works for me. When I do that, I’m free of the guilt, stress, overwhelm, and honestly, the resentment that comes when I say yes just to please others. Also, I realized that when I’m honest, say no and provide an alternate time, the person asking is ok! Everything works out and it’s so freeing!

Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Are you a yes person?
  • Do you keep saying yes when you know we are a no?
  • Do you over schedule yourself?
  • Do you say yes to things even though you’ve already said yes to something else and then switch things around?

If you said Yes to any or all of them, then it’s time to stop that and speak your truth! Take on this week honouring your time and schedule….before saying Yes everywhere, stop and really take a look at whether or not you can. And if you do not want to then  say no, but if you are willing and the time doesn’t work for you, say no and provide them with an alternative date/time.
Take it on and see what happens. I dare you!

With Love,

Simone Vitellaro