“This is too hard.”
“I can’t do this anymore.”
“I don’t feel like it.”
“Perhaps this isn’t what I want to do.”
Does this sound familiar? Yes that’s right, it’s the running commentary in our minds when the going gets tough, when we are not achieving our goals quickly enough or when we are confronted by things that come up along the way. We all do it and it’s going to keep testing us. And it’s up to us whether we’re going to continue listening to it or continue taking actions towards our goals. Listen, no one said it was going to be easy and you may not like the journey at times but the only way you’ll discover what’s possible is to see it through to the end. Stop the habit of giving up…it’s not serving you. I will bet my life on it that you have done this in the past and it’s how you deal with life when it’s not going your way, you probably have many unfinished projects and unfulfilled goals.
I’m no different than you. Before becoming a managing partner with TeamSynerG, I worked at a children’s agency, during which time I completed a yoga teacher training. I took my yoga teacher training because I fell in love with yoga, and then I discovered the business side of yoga and didn’t want to do it anymore! When I became a teacher, I couldn’t handle my students’ facial expressions because I was making their faces mean that I sucked as a yoga teacher, and before every class-even driving to class-I’d be worried and listening to the running commentary in my head: “You can’t do this, you suck as a teacher, oh my god am I going to do a good job?” I’m pretty sure you’ve already figured out that being a teacher didn’t last very long! When I quit, I was relieved because I knew that I didn’t have to deal with it anymore. Yet, even though I didn’t have to deal with it anymore, it was just something else that I added to my list of things I either didn’t complete or I quit because I was confronted by how it was all occurring to me.
Even when I started as a coach, I would doubt myself constantly and I even got to the point of wanting to quit and trying to convince my business partners that I didn’t want to do this anymore. They, of course, didn’t believe me and knew that I was just doing what I usually do: Run as fast as I can from the thing that is confronting me and causing me to believe that I wasn’t good enough. Well, what I can assure you is this: the only way to win this battle of doubt and fear is to actually be willing to go through it and see it all the way through to the end. Break the pattern, make a different choice. Now, I can see my habit for what it is: a pattern of behaviour based in the past that is designed to keep me “safe” and free from discomfort.
I encourage you to take on your fear and doubt. How? These three things are what helped me:
- Find your tribe. A group of people that you trust, that will push you, cheer you on, and will never let you give up on your goals.
- Consider hiring a coach or putting yourself into a personal development program.
- And lastly, trust yourself, love yourself and believe in yourself. You’ve got this!