“At the beginning of a good relationship, everything seems perfect. You and your partner agree on everything, you want to do the same activities on the weekends and you always look great and shiny and happy. They call this the honeymoon stage, because in olden days we’d be married by now and going on honeymoons. But I digress. After you’ve been together for a while and get comfortable, however. . . reality sets in.” -Laura Donavan

I’m sure many of you can relate and have experienced this. I brought this up because I believe this can even happen in business. We are so hyped about the venture, it’s going really well, we’re super excited and happy, everything seems to be working out and then things start to happen. Our idea, business or whatever we’re working on isn’t so appealing anymore. We’re now questioning whether or not this was a good idea, we might start looking at other options, we are annoyed, irritated, frustrated, and no longer excited. I don’t know about you but it seems pretty similar to the Honeymoon Stage of a relationship.
Knowing that you and your business were so connected and exciting at one point, there has to be a way to rekindle the passion.  It’s called working it out. Identifying where things got lost, when did you loose that passion, what happened that changed that experience? You might notice that “life” happened and it started testing you, it does what life does and we just allow all these circumstances to get in the way and started making all of it a problem.  Usually when there is a “problem” it must mean that the business is not the one. We start to question everything and can’t deal with the change. I’m not saying that everyone deals with it this way, but consider looking at your life and noticing what happens when things change.  You’ll be amazed at how much we allow it to impact us and make it mean a whole bunch of things, and how much we feel threatened by it so we retract, get stopped, start to doubt ourselves, question, start thinking there is no other option but to give up.  Once you get present to how you react to change, then you have a chance at doing something about it.  If you really want something you must be “willing” to take responsibility for where it is, and choose to press reset and get connected again to what excited you at the beginning.  When you notice the shine starting to fade, it’s a good time to check-in with yourself and your business partners.  Look at what is no longer working and be willing to get in communication and resolve it.  Nothing can be resolved from running, quitting, or not communicating about it. Be responsible in your life and know that you have a part in everything you participate in.  Stop allowing life “just happen to you” and take it on like you own it.

So if you want the Honeymoon stage to continue what are you willing to do to keep it going?

 

Yours,

Simone Vitellaro