Sometimes we work a job because we are conditioned to get a good job with a pension, benefits and then retire. I knew from an early age that I did not want to fall into that trap, however, for 28 years I did just that. Until one day I decided I had enough of working just to pay the bills and not be fulfilled in my spirit with what I was doing.
The struggle to find my purpose was a daunting one because I didn’t have a clear vision of what I wanted to do with my life. My focus was to find something that would make me want to bounce out of bed everyday because it brought me joy. I would daydream about having a lasting impact on people’s lives and to be a contribution. My legacy would leave a lasting impression like Martin Luther King Jr., Oprah, Lady Diana or Bob Marley just to name a few.
As I started to examine my life the most profound thing I have done was to raise my children as a single parent. I found it challenging to manage work, finances, recreational activities and leisure time. I was in search of work, home, and wellbeing balance. That is why I started my journey of personal development.
A shift in my thinking, confidence, faith and a belief in myself was the order of the day. I began to read books like 177 Mental Toughness Secrets Of The World Class by Steve Siebold, Leadership and Self-Deception by The Arbinger Institute, Becoming A Person of Influence by John Maxwell and my favourite Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. I started to seek out books and people who could pour into me as I was a sponge looking to soak up anything that would bring about a permanent shift in my thinking, lead me to enlightenment and my purpose. At one point I had to ask myself what does all that even mean? Yet, I did not give up on my search.
One day my husband and I decided to plan out the next 10 years before retirement. We both knew we did not want to keep working at jobs until we retired and then have to work for minimum wage to make ends meet. Our first thoughts were to become entrepreneurs. But what business would we create? We looked at each of our talents. He is an amazing cook and talented songwriter and mine is cleaning and organizing our household. For sure he could start a business songwriting and producing beats or we could open a mom and pop sandwich shop. Yet, neither of these possibilities spoke to my soul so I went back to work once again on discovering my purpose. Then one day I remembered that I had said I wanted to write a book one day. I thought how amazing would it be to write a book that was a resource for single parents to find balance in their lives? A book on structures for managing parenthood, their health, finances and balancing work. And then I dreamed a little bigger by thinking I could develop a mobile app along with the book! Now that felt right and was I ever excited!
From there I went to work on using my faith to manifest all the things I needed to publish a book. Here are the steps I followed:
- Asking God for confirmation
- Believing in myself that I could be an author
- Enrolling my husband to support me
- Speaking other authors
- Speaking to someone who markets and brands people dreams
- Researching my target market
- Creating the framework in which to write the book
Now, I’ve learned in the past to never be attached to the way I think things should look, or how I think they should go. So, when I spoke to the professional brand engineer and she suggested that the way to really fulfill on my dream of impacting millions was not to write a resource book but to write my memoirs, I prayed and asked God for confirmation. Once I got clarity, my husband and I trusted the advice and decided to move forward in that new direction. After all, people love a great story of triumph with characters that they can relate to.
So, I leave you with this in searching for your purpose, pray for clarity, speak to professionals, follow your intuition, and lastly don’t be attached to how you think it will look.